In processing the final outcome, I decided to expand from what I have done for 101 Don’ts and 10x10x10. I purposed to produce a series of collection about etiquette and manners in 4 categories: general (in street/public), public transport, smoking and table manners. Research is done specifically on the 4 sections.
In the 1930’s and 40’s a much larger portion of the population smoked than does today. For this reason smoking was much more socially accepted. Whereas today smokers are constantly being looked down upon and accused of harming others with their second hand smoke, in the past it was not considered polite to object to anothers smoking habits. In the 1990’s it might be considered bad etiquette to smoke in the home of a non-smoker, but back then hosts were expected to supply ashtrays and even cigarettes or cigars for all of their guests. Smoking was also much more accepted in public places such as stores, and restaurants. As Emily Post put it, “those who smoke outnumber those who do not by a hundred to one … [so] they … must learn to adapt themselves to existing conditions … and when they come into contact with smokers, it is scarcely fair that the few should be allowed to prohibit the many from the pursuit of their comforts and their pleasures (Post 37).”
Only the most inconsiderate things a smoker could do were considered bad etiquette during the 30’s and 40’s. When at another person’s home this included putting a cigar or cigarette out on something that might be damaged, setting one down somewhere and letting it burn, causing a burn hole in any other way, or ashing in the wrong place (such as a plant). Conversely it was expected that any good host or hostess would provide a plethora of ashtrays for their guests. It was only considered bad manners to smoke at a host’s dinner table if the host did not light up first. In fact most people provided matches and cigarettes at every place setting when they entertained guests for dinner. Similarly a sickroom visitor would be considered rude if he or she smoked unless the patient suggests it or is smoking theirself. Other good smoking manners included not entering a host or hostess’ room with an already lighted cigarette, as well as not answering the door for guests with one. The only other rules of smoking etiquette were common courtesies such as not blowing smoke into the face of someone who isn’t smoking and making sure to immediately return a borrowed book of matches. Today smokers are constantly forced to check for no smoking signs or ask another’s permission to light up, but during the 30’s and 40’s it was a smoker’s world and the habit was accepted in almost any situation and setting.
Light your cigarette away from others. When you light your cigarette, hold your cigarette in a direction away from those around you, cover it and puff lightly to get the cigarette lit. This keeps smoke from blowing toward others.
Watch where you ash your cigarette butts. The polite way to ash a cigarette is to rest your cigarette on an ash tray and allow the ashes to fall off by themselves. Tapping your cigarette butts off your cigarette is viewed as rude.
Puff the cigarette. When you’re in public, the polite way to smoke a cigarette is to gently puff on it.
Relax and enjoy your cigarette. Taking your time while smoking your cigarette is viewed as polite. If you appear rushed and in a hurry to finish your cigarette, that is rude behavior.
Monitor the reactions of those around you when smoking. Blow your exhalation smoke away from the group you are with. If you notice someone disturbed by your cigarette smoke, apologize and either put out your cigarette or move the cigarette and the ashes farther away from the group.
Talking. Loud talking on public transportation is ill-mannered and offensive. Never shout or talk so loud it disturbs other passengers.
Cellphones. Place the cellphone on vibrate. No one likes hearing several cellphones ringing in unison while commuting on public transportation. This is disturbing to passengers and the driver.
Music. Commuters who like to listen to music during their ride on
public transportation should wear headphones. Don’t assault the people around you with loud music. This is poor etiquette and rude. Not everyone shares the same musical taste as you do! And many might find the music offensive.
Smoking. Signs all around point out no smoking is allowed on public transportation but a few offenders ignore this law. Respect other commuters/riders by waiting until the end of the ride to smoke a cigarette.
Food. Public transportation is not the place to chow down on a hamburger and guzzle a beer. It is against the rules and very offensive to others. Plus, food and drink might easily spill over on fellow riders causing a hazardous situation.
Seniors/Disabled. The seats near the front of the bus are designated for seniors and the disabled. Don’t plop down in these seats. Find another available seat.
Common Courtesy. This is especially for the young men out there. Common courtesy seems to be a part of a bygone era but if you see an elderly person, or pregnant woman, offer them your seat. This is just plain old fashioned common courtesy and the person probably would greatly appreciate such a gracious move.
Always be on time to the dinner table. Being late to dinner is not accepted in many cultures because it is considered to be rude. If you are late to dinner you may not have enough food to eat or there might be a spot for you at the table simply because you were late. However, things do happen and sometimes we have no choice but to be late. If you are late and can’t help it, it’s recommended that you call ahead so that the person fixing the dinner can make enough food for you and keep your spot at the table.
Avoid chewing or talking with food in your mouth. Chewing or talking with food in your mouth is a horrible display of manners. If you are having a family dinner it would be pretty rude to be talking with food in your mouth and have food come out of your mouth. Also, your dinner mates may not want to see what’s being tossed around in your mouth. It is recommended that you wait until you swallow your food then say what you need to say.
Don’t be obscene. Being obscene at the dinner table can cause your dinner mates to not want to eat around you anymore. You should practice shunning dinner obscenity by eliminating the following things: use of swearing words, arguing, making funny or ugly faces, and other common obscenities. If you are going to act in an obscene way, it is recommended that you excuse yourself from the dinner table, or wait until after dinner